Divorce Grief Counselling in Huddersfield

Moving through. Making meaning. Mapping what matters.

Sessions available in-person in the UK & across Europe.

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Divorce is a whole-life unravelling.

It’s not only the end of a relationship.

It’s the loss of shared routines.

The shift in identity.

The practical reorganisation of your days.

The quiet moments when the house feels different. The holidays without a default plan, and milestones that are no longer shared.

You may be:

  • Co-parenting while still grieving

  • Functioning at work but falling apart in the evenings

  • Relieved and heartbroken at the same time

  • Questioning who you are now

You might know the decision was right.

And it still hurts.

This makes sense.

All of this normal.

“I wish I didn’t miss them so much.”

My Approach

Moving through, making meaning, meeting yourself again.

Together we:

  • Slow things down so your nervous system can settle

  • Make space for the grief without pathologising it

  • Explore role loss and reorientation

  • Help you find steadier ground in parenting, identity, and decision-making

  • Map what matters now

Some sessions may feel reflective, others practical.

We can work with understanding attachment patterns, relational trauma, or clear conversations about boundaries and identity.

Or we can begin with simple body-based awareness and practical steps to make grieving feel more manageable.

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Learn how to support yourself in Grief

Grieving Myths

  • It’s only something that happens when someone dies.

  • It’s more valid if it’s related to death.

  • It passes with time.

  • Grief means crying all the time.

  • I should be stronger for the kids.

  • If I forgive, I will find peace.

  • I chose this. I shouldn’t feel this sad.

  • It will all feel normal once the court processes are completed.

  • It will resolve once I have a new partner and a new shared vision for the future.

Divorce Grief in Real Time

  • Divorce grief is real grief. You are grieving a shared life, routines, identity, future plans, and belonging. The person may still be alive, but the relationship you lived inside has ended. Your system registers that as loss.

  • Time alone does not reorganise your nervous system or rebuild your identity. Grief shifts when it is witnessed, metabolised, and given space. Without conscious engagement in grieving, it can turn into numbness, overworking, or harsh self-talk.

  • Grief can look like irritability, flatness, overthinking, doom-scrolling, snapping at people, or feeling nothing at all. Tears are only one expression. Numbness, anger and anxiety are also common.

  • Children do not need a perfect parent. They need a regulated-enough one. Strength does not mean suppressing your grief. It means having somewhere else to process it so you can return steadier.

  • Forgiveness is not a shortcut to feeling steadier. Peace usually comes from rebuilding safety and clarity first. Forgiveness, if it happens, tends to follow integration. It cannot be forced.

  • You can choose something necessary and still mourn what you loved and lost. Missing someone does not mean you made the wrong decision.

Divorce grief is real.

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FAQs

  • Yes. Court processes add complexity and cognitive load to the grieving process. I work with clients to sort through the emotional load of paperwork and solicitor relationships. We move toward finding clarity and movement with what feels difficult.

  • Recovering from the dynamics of any kind of abuse in a relationship can be devastating, lonely, and confusing. Processing grief for your ex-partner can include looking at what it means to have loved someone with whom you experienced a great deal of harm.

  • This distinction matters because it can shape how you approach healing. Grief and depression can live alongside each other, but sometimes depression becomes heavier and interrupts the natural movement of grieving. When there are multiple layers of loss, a history of trauma, or ongoing low mood, we step back and look at the whole picture that is affecting you.

  • Of course. Often we begin therapy because one part of life feels especially painful. But life does not pause around that issue (we wish!). Work stress, parenting, family dynamics, health concerns, identity shifts, dating again, loneliness. All of it can shape how you experience grief.

    Therapy is a space to bring the whole of what is affecting you. We work with what feels most present each week.