Psychotherapy for divorce, grief, and life transitions
In-person in Huddersfield • Online across the UK and Internationally
It's not only the end of a relationship. It's the loss of shared routines, a particular future, and the identity that was built inside that life. You might know the decision was right and it still hurts. Both things are true at once.
Divorce grief is real grief. The person may still be alive, but the relationship you lived inside has ended. Your system registers that as loss; it doesn't discern whether you initiated it or whether it was the right thing to do.
What this can look like
Grief doesn't always announce itself clearly; it can look like irritability, flatness, overthinking, or feeling nothing at all. It can look like functioning perfectly at work and falling apart in the evenings. Tears are one expression, while numbness, anger, and anxiety are also very common.
Some people find that grief from a divorce stirs older losses — relationships, ruptures, or bereavements that were never fully processed. What's happening now can open what was already there.
Working together in session
Sessions tend to move between the immediate and the longer view. Some sessions can be reflective — making sense of what happened, what you've lost, what your relationships meant for you. Other sessions can be more practical: how you're getting through the days, how you're sleeping, and if you’re co-parenting, what this new role is asking of you.
We work with attachment patterns and relational history, while giving context to body-based awareness and steadier ways to move through what grief is doing physically.
Writings on divorce grief.
Sometimes grief resurfaces unexpectedly through everyday moments, changes in routine, or the shifting seasons.
The heart drops when the kids leave, the time gaps that hurt most, and how to move one percent more into feeling your grief. A reflection on co-parenting grief, and the counterintuitive ways to meet the painful quiet inside.
Frequently asked questions
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Yes. Legal processes have their own timeline, and they don't wait for you to finish grieving. The cognitive and emotional load of paperwork, solicitor relationships, and procedural uncertainty is real — and it tends to sit on top of everything else you're already carrying.
Therapy during this period isn't about the legal decisions. It's about having somewhere to put what the process is stirring, so it doesn't have to be managed alone or pushed down until it's over.
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Grief after an abusive relationship is complicated in particular ways. There can be relief and loss at the same time, mourning for what you hoped the relationship would be, and confusion about why leaving still hurts.
Processing grief here can include looking at what it means to have loved someone with whom you experienced a great deal of harm.
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The two can look similar and they can coexist. Grief tends to come in waves and is usually tied to specific losses, memories, or moments. Depression is more pervasive — a flatness that doesn't lift.
They can also interfere with each other. Sometimes depression becomes heavier and interrupts the natural movement of grieving. When there are multiple layers of loss or a history of trauma, it's worth stepping back to look at the whole picture rather than treating each thing separately. If what you're experiencing feels more like the latter, that's worth naming early so we can think together about what kind of support makes sense.
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Of course. Often we begin therapy because one part of life feels especially painful. But life doesn't pause around that issue. Work stress, parenting, family dynamics, health concerns, identity shifts, dating again, loneliness — all of it can shape how you experience grief, and all of it is worth bringing.
The sessions follow what you bring, not a fixed agenda.