Psychotherapy for relationship change, grief, and rupture
In-person in Huddersfield • Online across the UK and Internationally
My Approach
Relationships are often where we most clearly meet ourselves — our patterns, our defences, what we learned early about closeness and safety. They're also where those things become most difficult to see clearly, because of how much is at stake.
People come to this work in different ways. Some are inside a relationship that has become confusing or painful — where something has shifted and they're not sure what they're carrying and what belongs to the relationship. Others come after — trying to understand what happened, what they participated in, what they want to do differently.
What tends to be most useful is slowing down enough to look at the patterns rather than only the events, what gets repeated and what gets avoided. We also look at where the body tightens or shuts down in contact with another person.
I draw on relational, somatic, and parts-based approaches — not as a fixed framework, but because relationships live in the body as much as in the mind, and because the parts of us that drive relational difficulty are often not the parts we consciously identify with.
This work can include looking at attachment history, family dynamics, and the ways early relationships shape what feels normal or possible now. It can also be more immediate — how you're navigating a specific relationship, what you want, and what feels hard to say.
Frequently asked questions
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We begin with what's most present. That might be what hurts, what you miss about yourself, or simply what you haven't been able to say out loud yet. There are many entry points that tend to converge over time.
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That's often exactly what brings people here. Family dynamics tend to be layered in particular ways — shaped by history, role, cultural expectation, and loyalty that can be hard to think clearly inside of. We don't have to simplify what's genuinely complicated. We just need enough space to look at it.
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That's worth exploring rather than assuming it's fixed. Most relational patterns were learned early, inside families or early relationships, before we had much choice in the matter. Understanding where they came from — and what they were originally trying to do — is usually where this work begins.
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No, the relational patterns that show up in partnerships tend to appear in friendships, family dynamics, and working relationships too, often in recognisable ways.
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Because knowing something and being able to act on it are different things, and the gap between them is usually where the real work is.
Leaving a relationship, even one that's causing harm, involves losses that are real: familiarity, identity, shared history, and sometimes safety. Attachment doesn't switch off because the relationship has become painful. Often it intensifies, this is how attachment works.
What tends to make leaving possible, when that's what someone wants, is understanding what's keeping them, not to judge it, but to see it clearly enough to make a genuine choice.